A client of mine shared her breakup letter with me the other day. I loved it so much that I had to share!
I would like to say "it's not you, it's me," but the truth is, it is YOU!
We have known each other for as long as I can remember. You were by my side when I was happy, sad, bored, stressed, tired, lonely, celebrating, or just feeling like I deserved your sweet attention. Even on my first birthday, there is a picture of me with my face in a big chocolate cake. Such fun.
But sugar, somewhere along the way, our relationship turned sour. I started to need you, and then later, resent you, and swear I would never see you again. This would work for a while until eventually my desire for you would surpass my rational decision making. I would convince myself that I didn't need you, but I wanted you, and I deserved you. I thought I could see you for the occasional one night stand, and not give you another thought the morning after.
Sadly, this was not the case. Like the boy with the blue eyes who only calls when he needs something, you had me under your spell.
But now, I am
In charge. I make the decisions about when I see you, and how often I let you into my life. When I do invite you to my table, it will be as a guest, with the understanding that you are not staying over. I will enjoy your company, and then bid you farewell. No long last kisses, or late night calls.
I make the decisions in this relationship now. I'm feeling stronger every day!